Today isn’t only Election Day. It’s a part of National Adoption Month!
To break up the election news cycle, I thought I’d toss out a subject that’s also near and dear to the heart: adoption. As a family impacted by this beautiful experience, we wanted to share about what it’s like to be in an open adoption. To kick off a month of awareness & insight, who better to tell you about adoption than the adoptee herself.
Adoption questions at 6-years-old
Interviewing my daughter was quite the experience. I’ve never tried to get answers from someone so wiggly. I might have bribed with candy and computer time. Might.
Open adoption is all our daughter Mae has ever known. But even with the situation being openly discussed, I’ve watched my daughter start to think and talk about adoption more than ever at age six.
She notices other mommies and pregnant bellies. She’s trying to understand breast feeding (of course it had to be very openly and loudly at the public zoo). She knows adoption makes her different; her teacher reports that she’s already explained to the class that she has two moms.
It’s clearly on her mind and manifesting through her drawings. It’s not uncommon for her to mention her birth mom’s name at the end of a long prayer.
Mae’s 10 Thoughts About Open Adoption
I wanted to know Mae’s thoughts on being adopted and how she saw the world. Here’s what she told me:
- How do you feel about being adopted?
I’m embarrassed. People will hear about me and want to be like me. I don’t like it. But I’m happy too. I like being adopted.
- What’s the best thing about being adopted?
More than one people love me.
- What’s hard about being adopted?
Barely nothing. Everything is not hard. There’s never been a time it’s been hard. But I wanted just one mommy when I was a baby. Having two mommies is a lot.
- What does it feel like to have two mommies?
Happy because I get lots of toys.
- Are you glad you know your birth mom?
Yeah. She’s a nice lady. I like that I get to see her.
- What’s your favorite memory with her?
Going to the inflatable park and my cousin was there too. I liked jumping.
- Do you think other people should adopt kids?
Adopt kids all day long. It will make the kids happy and parents happy.
- If there’s a kid sad about being adopted, what would you say to make them feel better?
Getting adopted is really fun. You get lots of presents and you might love presents. They [the birth family] will get to know you good if they get to be with you a lot.
- Does being adopted make you feel special?
No. I feel special when I get to buy a costume or go to T-Rex Restaurant.
- What’s the last thing you want to share?
I like stuffed toys because they’re so cute. And Barbies.
“Adoption Doesn’t Make me Special”
Out of the mouth of babes, huh?
While some of her answers were expected, I was surprised when she said adoption isn’t what makes her feel special (considering that’s the message we’ve told her all her life!).
To her, adoption is normal. What makes her feel special is the same thing that makes any kid feel special – fun times, surprises and presents.
I should have known that kids are smart. Adults don’t like to have assumptions made about them because of their differences, kids don’t either. While adoption makes her different, it doesn’t define her. I love that she so clearly articulated this at age six. I hope it sticks all her life!
More Adoption Blogs to Come!
This month we’ll have more interviews, posts and Wednesday Wisdom all about adoption. Make sure to subscribe, or if you want us to answer any specific questions you may have about adoption leave a comment below!